In my book, The Bad Kitty Handbook – A Journey Toward Authentic Female Sensuality, I give a list of the changes that will happen in your life when you truly own your Bad Kitty. Over the next few weeks, we’ll go over some of these in detail.
This week is “A Bad Kitty is someone who – Makes a Positive Impact.”
“There is no chance, no destiny, no fate, that can hinder or control the firm resolve of a determined soul.” ~Ella Wheeler Wilcox
During my recent holiday I saw the movie and read the book The Help by Kathryn Stockett. It’s a fictional story based on the author’s own life as a white woman raised by her black maid in 1960’s Mississippi. It’s premis is that a young white woman aspiring to be a journalist writes a book about the lives of “the help” from their perspective. In the ’60’s in Mississippi even talking about such things could get you lynched so everyone involved was taking a huge risk if they were to be discovered. Both the book and the movie are well worth your time if you haven’t seen/read them already. It’s an inspiration of bravery, follow through and no matter what unstoppable energy. Even in this fictional world, these women made a positive impact.
I love this quote from the book, “We are just two people. Not that much separates us. Not nearly as much as I’d thought.”
We are so great at separating ourselves. It could be because we don’t think anyone else will understand or that we’re afraid of ridicule or that no one would care. The fact is, we are more alike than we are different and we’re all looking for help, support, love, understanding. We all want someone to reach out to us and say “I get it”, “It’s OK”, “I feel the same way”, “I struggle too”, “I can help with that”.
Making a positive impact doesn’t have to be a huge thing. You don’t have to be Mother Teresa, write an perception shaking book, speak to thousands or live in an ashram. Making a positive impact can be as simple as giving someone a hug when they need it. It can be feeding your child’s esteem. It can be giving a stranger a sincere smile. Every time you reach out with love and sincerity to another person, you are making a positive impact.
- What are you passionate about? Look for ways to contribute to a cause that supports your passion.
- Who needs support? Look for the opportunity to do a random act of kindness every day.
- How can you be more present? When someone starts complaining, look for the underlieing message. How can you lift them up rather than getting caught up in the negative messages?
- Where do you love to be? As you feed your posivity by being in a place you enjoy – a garden, the library, the mall – be aware of how your joy can create joy in others.
- When do you feel the most positive? Are you better in groups or one on one? Are you a great writer or a talker? Do you enjoy children or adults? Give your positive energy in the ways that serve you best so you don’t wear yourself out and keep your pitcher full.
It doesn’t take much to make a positive impact as long as you keep yourself fed so that you are in a positive state of mind. When you are positive and in love with yourself and your life, it can’t help but flow out of you! Your one little act will create ripples in the world. Fight the negative with your positive love and light!
Remember there’s no such thing as a small act of kindness. Every act creates a ripple with no logical end. ~Scott Adams
If you can’t feed a hundred people, then feed just one. ~Mother Teresa
Whether it’s for one or a thousand, start your ripples now and watch your impact effect lives of those you touch and beyond many times over!
Remember – Be Beautiful, Be YOU and your impact will be positively felt.
Hugs, Christie