In my book, The Bad Kitty Handbook – A Journey Toward Authentic Female Sensuality, I give a list of the changes that will happen in your life when you truly own your Bad Kitty. Over the next few weeks, we’ll go over some of these in detail.
This week is “A Bad Kitty is someone who – Refuses to be Invisible.”
Unfortunately, sometimes people don’t hear you until you scream. ~Stephanie Powers
It wasn’t all that long ago that I was invisible. Imagine being a 6 foot tall woman and going unnoticed. I was once left behind by a group in a strange city because they forgot about me! How could that be? It’s because I was an expert at keeping my mouth shut to prevent looking like a fool. I was so worried about living up to everyone else’s expectations that I kept myself hidden just in case I read their expectations incorrectly. I was so good at hiding myself that I was christened “Spock.”
Some of you may be thinking – oh but everyone knows me! I totally stand out in a crowd. Great! My question is, do you stand out as a character or as yourself? I always loved being on stage because I would play a character and get to be someone else. Some people are great at doing that in their daily lives. You may be known, yet I wonder – do all these people really know you or do they know the version of you that you present to the world?
The invisible aren’t necessarily wallflowers. The invisible can be hiding in plain sight.
Are you afraid that if others, especially those you love, actually saw you and knew you that they wouldn’t accept you? Are you sick and tired of not being seen at all? Are you fed up with people thinking they know you when they don’t have a clue?
Your Bad Kitty is crying out to be seen and known for who she is in all her glory, beauty and power. Sometimes you have to scream – either literally or figuratively – in order for others to know you.
How can you get others to stop missing you and treating you as invisible?
- Speak your mind. If something isn’t working for you in your life, let the people involved know and ask for what you want and need.
- Learn to give your message in a way that the person can hear and accept. Often we think we’ve spoken our minds but we have to make sure the other person gets it, otherwise you’re just making wind.
- Discover your passion and live it. When you are passionate, you can’t be invisible.
- Build your confidence. Do things regularly – at least once a week – that challenge you. Celebrate your successes and your willingness to step out of your box and your confidence will grow, leading to visibility.
- Find things you love to do and people you love to do them with. Feed your soul, exercise your fun muscle and you will glow.
Let the world know you as you are, not as you think you should be, because sooner or later, if you are posing, you will forget the pose, and then where are you? ~Fanny Brice
Think about all the people in your life who are completely visible. They don’t hide who they are and what they want. They take chances. They are inspiring. Join the ranks of the visible and watch your life transform!
You know you wanna! Be Beautiful, Be YOU!
Hugs, Christie