My boyfriend claims he’s a Jedi. He waves his hand in front of automatic doors just as they open. He often looks at me when he feels things aren’t quite going as planned and does his best Obi Wan saying “These are not the droids you’re looking for.”
Last night I almost believed him. He was barbecuing and it was quite chilly out. He came in with a shiver and said, “Winter is coming back.” We both looked outside and snowflakes were falling. Lightly, yet they were there. We both marveled for a moment and I mentioned that it might be better if he used his powers for good.
A few minutes later he said, “It’s a beautiful summer day.” Moments later the sun was shining brightly. Maybe he is a Jedi and next time he waves his hand in front of my face I won’t look at him so skeptically!
Seriously, we have all likely experienced times when a change in the way we think or speak has actually made a difference in the outcome of our lives. The weather might be a little harder to overcome with mind control and our reactions to anything, including the weather, can change depending on our thoughts. How many times have you complained about the snow one day and then the next you had something fun to do like skiing and it felt completely different even though it was the same? How many times have you had a low opinion of someone until you discovered something about them that made you feel more empathy and see them in a new light?
I’ve had a rough week. I was choosing to see the bad side of a few events and it took me out for awhile. Even a week after the trigger, I was still emotional over it all.
I have been feeling lonely and abandoned. Several things facilitated this. Ever have that snowball effect on your emotions? It’s like this one event is OK. I can handle this second event but this sixth one is kicking my ass!
My events all had to do with looking for people to partner with me in my business in a variety of forms. Over the past while the following have happened:
- 2 people approached me about doing pole parties for me. Both did one or two parties then decided they were too busy.
- a woman I partnered with to do a class that was amazing only wants to do that class once a year so that’s not much of a boost to what I offer
- a woman who approached me about becoming business partners decided she was no longer interested
- an intern I hired lasted all of 3 hours before deciding to move to Saskatchewan with her boyfriend
- a woman who was going to do some research work for me came out to an event with me, loved the class and was a great help but decided she’s too busy to add anything new to her plate
- a woman who was going to do a class with another woman and I in a couple of weeks bowed out as it no longer fits into her plans for the year
- a class I held on the weekend had 8 people registered and 4 canceled at the last minute for various reasons
- had a meeting with a number of women about a high end coaching program I’m working on – one was was very negative, one had to bow out and another may or may not be involved and if she is it will be at a minimal level
So the snowball reached it’s apex and I crashed and rolled down the hill with it. Sometimes I’m a really good wallower. Suddenly everything was terrible. Nothing could possibly go right for me in this frame of mind.
A decision needed to be made. Do I want to stay in this negative state or do I want to move forward? Eventually I always want to move forward. I’m a good wallower and I’m an even better suck it up princess-er. Now I’m choosing to focus on the good things.
- there will be others who want to do parties and when I need them most, they will show up
- I’ll have a really great event to build anticipation for every year before Valentine’s Day
- I had concerns about the partnership the other woman proposed so it likely wasn’t the best fit anyway. Now I can move onto someone and something that’s a better situation. The right person is out there! It’s like dating. You’ve gotta kiss a lot of frogs to find the prince!
- an intern may not be the best path right now and there are so many other options
- there are more people interested in doing research and I will find the right one – again, kissing some frogs
- my friend and I have a chance to create something amazing together and have more time to present without the third person
- there were 4 people at my class and they were wonderful!
- there are still several people who want to be involved in the coaching program and they are enthusiastic about it
We – even The Bad Kitty – are all human. We all have moments of sadness, weakness, overwhelmedness, nothing ever goes right-ness, times when we don’t even want to see the bright side let alone be able to recognize it sitting right there in front of our face.
Being your true sensual self means fully feeling and acknowledging the emotions that feel crappy as well as the ones that feel good. When you need it, allow yourself the wallow time. Then be prepared to move when you’re done. Remember, if you’re not growing, you’re dieing.
Use your Jedi mind tricks to bring yourself out of the funk. “This is not the place you’re looking for”. Know that every experience that makes you feel awful has the ability to be one of your best motivators.
It’s a gift that comes wrapped in sandpaper. It’s your chance to decide. Do you want to dwell on the sandpaper or go through some discomfort to unwrap the gift?
I’m right there with you, feeling the pain and deciding to feel differently. You and I deserve the gift. Let’s shift our minds and go for it!
Hugs to you!
Be Beautiful, Be YOU!