In my book, The Bad Kitty Handbook – A Journey Toward Authentic Female Sensuality, I give a list of the changes that will happen in your life when you truly own your Bad Kitty. Over the next few weeks, we’ll go over some of these in detail.
This week is “A Bad Kitty is someone who – is Unafraid to Express Herself.”
In all realms of life it takes courage to stretch your limits, express your power, and fulfill your potential… ~Suze Orman
Express yourself. We hear it all the time. Aritstic expression. Say what you mean. Tell us how you feel. Self expression through the way you dress. With all these options for expression, one thinks it should be pretty easy to do it.
There are many things that prevent us from our full expression:
- fear of being fully seen and rejected
- expectations of society on how we “should” be
- incomplete vision of who we truly are
- filling our lives with making sure everyone else is happy
- playing small so as not to make others uncomfortable
You may have heard this quote from Marianne Williamson:
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
You are amazing and beautiful in YOUR expression. No one is like you and it serves no one, least of all yourself, to pretend you are like someone else.
Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successfull personality and duplicate it. ~Bruce Lee
One of the best ways for women to discover their expression is through movement. There is something about moving your body as
a woman that sets us free. Unfortunately a lot of the same issues mentioned above that effect our everyday expression also effect our expression through movement. It can be difficult to really let loose and let our expression flow. This is not just the fear of being judged or rejected, it is even deeper than that. It’s because dance is so deeply linked to core self that if we release it, we release a lot of fears, power and self that may haver been hiding safely in that closet in the sub-sub basement of your psyche.
I see dance being used as communication between body and soul, to express what it too deep to find for words. ~Ruth St.Denis
Would you like to find ways to express your soul through your body? Check out A Swing In Your Hips and A Smile On Your Lips taught by The Bad Kitty and Groovy Goddess creator Sabrina Thevin. Releasing your dance will really get your self expression moving in every other part of your life.
I used to be a very self conscious dancer. I was told by my jazz teacher in theatre school that “you know how to do the moves but you don’t know how to make them look like dancing.” She also asked after an improv class why I didn’t get up off the floor during most of the class. My answer was “because I felt awkward.” Now that I know and accept myself, my dancing has changed considerably. I dance because I love it. I get noticed on the dance floor not because I’m the best dancer but because I’m having the most fun.
Let’s boogey, kitties!
See you on the dance floor, Christie