Do you ask for what you want? The only way to get what you want is to ask for it. It sounds so basic and yet so often we expect our mind to be read. “If he loves me, he should know what I want.” “I really want that promotion. I’m sure my boss will see that I’m the best person for the job.”
When we don’t get what we want even though we didn’t ask for it, we get all bent out of shape. “I can’t believe he got me THAT!” “Really? I’m am so much more qualified than she is!”