Adam Lambert had big shoes to fill. Freddie Mercury is a legend. Even though I never had the opportunity to see him live, his reputation certainly precedes him. Adam didn't try to imitate or overshadow Freddie. He was the perfect mix of respect and individuality. His 5 costume changes and respectful pauses as video of Freddie played during Bohemian Rhapsody showed the right amount of bluster and reverence.
Sexy is about what draws people to you. It is an aura you carry with you. It is a way of being that portrays your best self in every situation. There are Seven Secrets of Sexy. If you have, or can cultivate, these seven things, you are sexy. The more you have, the sexier you are.
More than once as a child comments have been made about how quiet I can be. I remember one guy saying as I sat quietly in the back while everyone else chatted and fooled around, "y'know it kind of scares me when someone is that quiet. You never know what's going on in their brain." Still waters run deep, my friend.
Like so many things in life, it's so easy to compare myself to others. Thankfully, I know I'm not alone in this. I don't think I've met anyone who doesn't compare themselves. We compare our bodies, our love lives, our career success, our happiness, our diets, our homes, our cars, our creativity level, our time management, our organizational skills, our cooking, our debt, our dreams - you name it, someone somewhere - maybe you - is comparing to someone else.
We take so many things at face value without really looking more closely at them. Expressions. Standards to live by. How we do our jobs. Without even knowing it, many of us live by that expression. We aren't curious. We don't ask questions. We don't look for the "why" the "how" of what is around us.
Nearly four years ago I bought a new car - the Kia Soul. After I purchased it, I turned it into The Bad Kitty - mobile. It had my information on the back window - logo, name website, phone number and bullet points under the heading "Authentic Sensuality" of home pole parties and motivational speaker. On the sides the Bad Kitty was lounging across the doors. It felt like I was driving around in a representation of who I am and what I do.
We all have things in our life we value. What we value is what we need to concentrate on. Others may try to tell us that we should value something else, or that we should value something they value in addition to what we already value. Well, kitties, we are all who we are and no matter what the expectations of others, we cannot value what they value.
Today, I'd like to use this forum to share some struggles I've been going through for some time. I share with trepidation because what if you stop trusting me? What if it makes me look weak and ridiculous? Often, since I see myself as a leader and have been told I'm an inspiration, it's hard to admit that I'm also human. Shocking, I know. Yes, The Bad Kitty struggles too. Part of the Bad Kitty acronym is Authentic. I feel in order to truly be Authentic with you, my community, I must share.