I meant to write a post last week about an event I went to but didn’t get around to it. Now I’m glad I didn’t as it makes a sharp contrast to something I experienced this past weekend.

The former was called “How to Find the Man of Your Dreams… And Marry Him in 6 Months”. I went as a sponsor to promote my business, as it is for women after all, not as a participant. I have no problem with the first part of the title, not so big on the second. But that’s another story….

There were at least 100 women in the room for this event. Some of what the presenter, a man, had to say was valid. Things like knowing and loving yourself, knowing what you want/need so you can narrow the field, being clear on what you want from the very start before you fall in “love”. All very important. What I wasn’t as taken with was the manipulation factor. The holding back, the being a “mystery”, no sex until marriage – it all felt very contrived. And, on top of that, why should I deny myself something I enjoy – that being sex – for the sake of getting a man? Not worth it in my book!

What got to me most was how everyone – well, most at least – were eating it up. Are we so desperate to find Mr.Right that we’ll listen to any yahoo that claims to be an expert? Is this the most important thing we have to think about? Please, tell me it ain’t so!

In contrast, I went to a documentary on Sunday called “FIERCE LIGHT – Where Spirit Meets Action”. There were 5 people in the audience, including myself. This is an incredible piece of work. From the creators:
Fueled by the belief that “another world is possible,” Fierce Light is a compelling, global journey into the world of spirit in action, an exploration of what Martin Luther King called “Love in Action,” and Gandhi called “Soul Force”; what Ripper is calling “Fierce Light.” (Ripper is the film maker)
Click here to see the trailer.

The film is about the marriage of activism and spirituality, whatever you believe either to be. It’s about our ability, willingness (or not), power and drive to change the world for the better. I was moved to tears and had to take time to discuss and decompress afterwards. I can honestly say that is a rare occurrence for me.

What struck me most was the fact that this powerful, potentially world altering piece of work was only attended by a tiny handful, whereas a dating workshop was overflowing. There is something very wrong with this picture. I am struggling to put into words exactly how I feel about it and why. What it boils down to is why, oh why are we so caught up in ourselves that we refuse, or simply are unable to, see the big picture.

I created my business to see a change in the world. I want to see women take on their lives with joy and power. We have so much potential for love and so much strength of will when we are motivated.

One of the people in the documentary is Julia Butterly Hill who sat in a redwood for 2 years to save it from being cut down. She stayed even as she saw the forest being cut down around her. She stayed after a friend was crushed by a falling tree. She stayed and she saved the tree, Luna.

What do you care about enough to create no matter the obstacle? What’s most important to you? Finding a man or making a difference? I hope you’re with me and choose the latter. We can cut a huge swath through this crazy world together!

You are so inspiring to me, my kitties. Go shine your light, live your dreams. Be beautiful, Be you. We are what the world needs!

Hugs and kisses.


  1. Hey! What a nice google alert to stumble across this morning, such a nice contrast to the one I received from the reviewer of your local paper – maybe one of the reasons the film was not so well attended on your visit. Thank you for you thoughtful review. One of the things that triggered Paul (the critic) about Fierce light was that he thought it was "new age". As if Thich Nhat Hahn, Arch Bishop Desmond Tutu, American civil rights leader John Lewis, Gandhi or Marthin Luther King Jr., all prominent in the film, were new age!!!

    Of course, films like ours don't have the advertising budgets of the biggies either, so it's hit or miss what happens in a given city. By contrast to Edmonton, in Victoria we had packed theatres throughout our run, and in Vancouver we held over for eight weeks, which is quite incredible. The greatest power we have in the face of the Hollywood allure is through "word of mouse", so a blog like yours is incredibly helpful. Thank you for shining your Fierce Light!!

  2. Thank you for reading and commenting! And thank your friend Jaro for introducing me to your lovely work. All the best!

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