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Monday, November 20, 2017

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Feline Life Lesson #9 – Forgive

One thing about being a cat that lives in the same space as humans is they are much smaller than we are so sometimes we don't see them. I couldn't even begin to count how many times I've tripped over or stepped on a cat. Usually they're smart enough to get out of the way, but sometimes circumstances conspire against us. It's nothing personal, it's unintentional, it just happens. Life is like that so often for us as well. Someone says something hurtful or they let a door slam in your face or they tell someone else your secret. There are so many things that others do that we take to heart and refuse to forgive. Take a lesson from the cat, forgive, let it go.

Feline Life Lesson #8 – Be Engaged

There's one thing you can count on with cats, they are always engaged in what's going on around them - they are always present. Even when they're sleeping it seems like they have a sense that stays awake and they are immediately in the moment, no matter what. This makes them a totally sensual being. Their presence, the way they completely give themselves over to whatever is happening in the moment, they are supremely engaged in life.

Feline Life Lesson #7 – Embrace Looking Stupid

As we grow, we start to get terribly concerned about the opinions of others. Most of us dress, act and even think (or try to) to conform to the "norm", to the accepted, to the way that will get us into the group we want to be included in. One of the things we definitely want to stay away from is looking stupid. This will generate ridicule and possibly ostracization (yes, I made up that word!).

Feline Life Lesson #6 – Be Fearless

How fearless are you? Do you let difficult experiences stop you? Do you worry about what others think of you? Do you let your little voice talk you out of doing things? Do you let the size of the obstacle affect your determination? Do you quit before you've even begun?

Feline Life Lesson #5 – Love Your Body

Cats come in all shapes and sizes and colors, just like we do. Granted, I don't speak cat, but near as I can see, they don't make fun of each other. And they don't compare themselves to each other.

Let’s Get Naked

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To Be or Not To Be

When we say "I am - fill in the emotion" - we are expressing that that is our reality. It is how we are living, existing. In many other cultures/languages they say "I have - fill in the emotion" which indicates that the emotion is a current experience that we are holding for that moment. The big difference between am and have is that with have, you have the option to let go.

Setting Selfish Goals

There’s something about a new year that gives us hope for self improvement. The chance to correct all the mistakes we’ve made so far. The opportunity to be more than you were and closer to the perfection you envision. No pressure. And then it all falls apart in a few weeks or, if you’re especially motivated, a few months.

It’s Playtime! – Feline Life Lesson #4

No matter their age, cats always play. All it takes is a long piece of fabric dangling or a twist tie on the floor or a laser pointer (or other point of light), and away they go! Suddenly, it's playtime! Humans, on the other hand, often forget to play. As we get older it starts to seem frivolous. It becomes something we have to plan or coordinate. If we do it at all. I have a friend who's favorite question when getting to know people is "what do you do for fun?" It is remarkable how many people can't even answer that question.

Ask for What You Want – Feline Life Lesson #3

Do you ask for what you want? The only way to get what you want is to ask for it. It sounds so basic and yet so often we expect our mind to be read. "If he loves me, he should know what I want." "I really want that promotion. I'm sure my boss will see that I'm the best person for the job." When we don't get what we want even though we didn't ask for it, we get all bent out of shape. "I can't believe he got me THAT!" "Really? I'm am so much more qualified than she is!"