More than once as a child comments have been made about how quiet I can be. I remember one guy saying as I sat quietly in the back while everyone else chatted and fooled around, "y'know it kind of scares me when someone is that quiet. You never know what's going on in their brain." Still waters run deep, my friend.
We take so many things at face value without really looking more closely at them. Expressions. Standards to live by. How we do our jobs. Without even knowing it, many of us live by that expression. We aren't curious. We don't ask questions. We don't look for the "why" the "how" of what is around us.
Nearly four years ago I bought a new car - the Kia Soul. After I purchased it, I turned it into The Bad Kitty - mobile. It had my information on the back window - logo, name website, phone number and bullet points under the heading "Authentic Sensuality" of home pole parties and motivational speaker. On the sides the Bad Kitty was lounging across the doors. It felt like I was driving around in a representation of who I am and what I do.
We all have things in our life we value. What we value is what we need to concentrate on. Others may try to tell us that we should value something else, or that we should value something they value in addition to what we already value. Well, kitties, we are all who we are and no matter what the expectations of others, we cannot value what they value.
What's the difference you may ask. - resolutions are big sweeping changes, selfish goals are little things to do just for you. - resolutions can feel onerous and overwhelming, selfish goals can be fun and rewarding. - resolutions are often a result of societal pressure like being a certain size while selfish goals come from a desire and passion to be and express your best self.
Accepting compliments. It seems like a simple thing. Someone says something nice to you, you thank them and enjoy the fact that you've been seen and acknowledged. Yet, in our society, we're taught that we must be "humble" so we have forgotten how to accept compliments just in case we get a big head and become proud. Hogwash! One of my purposes in life is to get people to accept compliments graciously. Pretending that you aren't worthy of a compliment doesn't serve anyone.